Toddlers Throwing Temper Tantrums Can Make You CRAZY!
Learn How To Stop Those Nasty Tantrums
By lk4rt • December 11, 2017 • 15 month old baby temper tantrums
If you have ever been in a restaurant, department store or other public place when a toddler throws a massive temper tantrum, you know how embarrassing it can be. The scornful looks of other parents as your toddler goes into a fit of hysterics is almost too much to bear.
But it is even more embarrassing when the child that is throwing the temper tantrum is your own.
And having a child that throws a temper tantrum almost every time he / she is in public is even worse. But before you throw you throw in the towel, do not give up hope just yet. With the right tools, you can get your toddler’s temper tantrums under control before they get to a point of no return.
Consistency – The Cardinal Rule of Child Discipline
First and foremost, when dealing with your child – BE CONSISTENT. Children naturally want to test the boundaries of their parents’ guidance. If you give your child a different reaction when faced with the same repeated situation, toddlers become confused and continue to escalate the incidence of toddler temper tantrums. With that being said, it really can be overwhelmingly tempting to give in to your toddler’s tantrum in order to get your toddler from acting out. Ultimately in the long run, for the betterment of your toddler’s mental and emotional development, it is much better to let your toddler know in no uncertain terms that unacceptable behavior will not be tolerated. Dealing with your toddler’s temper tantrums in this way takes time and patience, but better behavior in the long run is the inevitable and much more desirable result. Most parents who insist they have tried a proven parenting technique and it hasn’t worked usually have failed because they did not apply that technique in a consistent and unyielding manner.
Environment Change Can Lead To Change For The Better
More often than not, a specific item, situation or point of conflict between a toddler and parent will trigger a toddler’s temper tantrum. Removing your toddler from the environment that is causing the issue can help to reduce the intensity of the tantrum. However, if you are in the middle of shopping or attending a social function, having to do this can be disheartening and somewhat annoying. But, like all aspects of parenting, discipline is an investment that will pay back dividends later even if it means going through some moments of inconvenience. If your toddler tends to throw temper tantrums quite often, it may be best to schedule only short outings until you and your toddler get the situation better under control. It can also be helpful to anticipate a troublesome situation and eliminate it beforehand.
If you are truly serious about taking control of your out of control toddler.
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Use Time Outs Effectively
With so much research indicating that spanking is harmful to your toddler, time outs have become the discipline method of choice. However, they are actually often misunderstood and misused. The biggest thing to remember with toddlers is that they like to see a big splash when they misbehave. In other words, your reaction is the most important pay off that toddler temper tantrums bring to your child. Take away the pay off. The most effective time out is given without a lot of dialogue and interaction between parent and child. Explain the rules in a simple, understandable way. If your child gets out of their time out spot (and they will!), place them back in firmly, showing as little emotion as possible. After a week or two, they will have the drill down and it will be much easier. After they time has been served, you can give hugs and discuss why the behavior was unacceptable.