Deal With Toddler Temper Tantrums
THE RIGHT WAY
By lk4rt • December 11, 2017 • 15 month old baby temper tantrums
Toddlers have been known to master a different form of communication at some point between the ages of one and three years old. This troublesome communication style has been known to get the attention of not only their parents, but the neighbors, everyone in the grocery store, and even the obnoxious kid down the street (if in earshot).
You probably already guessed it – it is called the temper tantrum.
Although there are many variations of the temper tantrum there are really two main types – the frustration tantrum and the manipulation tantrum.
Ideas For Ending Temper Tantrums Before They Get Too Out Of Control
When a toddler gets frustrated, he or she lacks the verbal skills to express those feelings usually resulting in an uncontrolled emotional outburst. Getting your toddler to calm down can be a much easier thing to do if you follow these helpful tips:
- Hold your toddler. The toddler can’t talk his way out of the problem. Being held lets him know that someone is there for him.
- Learn to identify what triggers your toddler’s tantrums. Does he or she get cranky during a visit to the market? Be prepared. Bring along a favorite toy or a treat. Don’t go shopping when the toddler is tired.
- VERBALIZE your toddler’s feelings. If he’s upset because you’re shopping and won’t buy him a toy, put it into words for him. Get down to the toddler’s level and say, “You want that ball and you’re upset because you can’t have it.” Knowing his feelings are understood will calm the toddler down.
- Use a distraction to lessen the intensity of the tantrum. Give him a favorite toy. Ask him to color a picture. Take him somewhere else, like the garden, where you can show him the flowers. Any distraction should abate the tantrum.
- Ask your toddler what emotions they are feeling. He may have difficulty verbalizing his frustration, but it will teach him to use words rather than tantrums when angry.
- Regardless of what your toddler is doing – REMAIN CALM! If the toddler is out-of-control, he needs you to be in control. If he’s throwing a tantrum in public, take him to a quiet place. Talk to him calmly.
Be aware that even a toddler is smart enough to know your trigger points. A tantrum-throwing toddler does not need a parent with a short fuse. Be aware what kind of behavior causes you to lose it. If necessary, get professional help. If your toddler is throwing a fit in an effort to manipulate you, it’s important that you remain in control.
- If possible, ignore the tantrum. Once your toddler realizes who’s in control, the tantrum will stop.
- Call for a time out. If you’re outside, take the child to the car. At home, have a “time out” place. This will give the toddler a chance to calm down.
For those serious about taking control of your out of control toddler.
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Most importantly, recognize that your toddler’s tantrums are actually a good thing. He or she is learning to deal with frustration, which is an important skill as the toddler matures into an adult. In a world where no one always gets what he or she wants, knowing how to deal with frustration is crucial.